As we start to wind down the year, I would like to take a minute to reflect on the local BPW theme I chose when I started as your President. I chose the quote; R.S. Grey "She Believed She Could, So She Did." As the year started I didn’t have a clue what I was doing and how ironic that I chose “She Believed She Could, So She Did” as my theme. All I knew was that as President I had to “Lead” like the ladies who came before me and try to make a difference. My theme became my mantra and anchored me. I had to remind myself that with fortitude and the grit, I could lead our local to have a great year. I had to constantly remind myself that I can accomplish anything as long as I set my mind and heart to it.
I was determined not to fail. I talked with past presidents about my expectations and was reminded by one of them that if I wanted to feel more confident, I had to act more confident. I quickly adopted the "As If" mindset. I knew that if I wanted to feel happier, I had to do what happy people do - smile, if I wanted to get more work done, I had to act as if I was a productive person, and if I wanted to have more friends, I had to behave like a friendly person.
The biggest mistake I made in the past was "Faking it until I Made it." Faking it until you make it only works when you correctly identify something within yourself that's holding you back. Behaving like the person you want to become is about changing the way you feel and the way you think.
Acting "as if" doesn't mean being phony or inauthentic. It's about changing your behavior first and trusting that the feelings will follow. As long as your motivation is in the right place, acting "as if" can effectively make your goals become reality. I had to make sure I was attentive to changing myself on the inside, not simply trying to change other people's perceptions of me.
I am truly grateful for the friendships and bonds I have created through BPW. My biological family lives far away from here. So, the UPBPW organization and its members have become my family here in the beautiful Upper Perkiomen Valley. They are the friends and mentors I know I can call on at any time of the day and they offer support whenever needed. They are my sisters in life.
I encourage all of you to act "As If." Step outside of your box and take that scary chance. Do something you have never done, and ask for help when you need it. Don't be afraid to admit that you don't know what you are doing because there is always someone else there willing to help you. As we begin to tie up loose ends and plan for 2019/2020, take a risk. Step into a position that you know nothing about, take a chance on yourself, and most importantly believe in yourself. She Believed She Could, So She Did.
Love Through BPW,
Jennifer Van Ingen President